Help me, let me do it myself

I am a Montessori teacher, have a son over 2 years old: personality, like activities and also like freedom – love. I want to start telling the story of my “nest” when my son finished watching a comic book, went to sleep.

As usual, every morning my son often wakes up early in the morning and goes to school with me. Starting to wake up from 6 a.m… At this age, some other children will often whine, beg and even cry because they do not want to go to school if they wake up early … But my son is not “He cries if he can’t go to school”. My son really likes to go to school, regardless of sun, rain, wind, cold… just need to go to school, he is always ready for everything …

From brushing teeth every morning, wearing pants, wearing shoes, wearing a mask, wearing a hat, take drinking water when it is needed… Despite struggling, awkward but every morning I let my child do it themselves everything and I help when he needs it, like a habit, to help my child be more active with preparing for each school day.

Once, the teacher told me: When my son was struggling in a corner with my socks, she quietly observed that his socks were wet under the table, the son took off each sock and went to find the plastic bag, put them in and put that away neatly in the backpack. Then grabbed another one and ran to her. “Please help me …” when he was 2 years old. She often told me stories in class about my child: when she closed the door, he cleaned up the toys to help her. When she pushes the table, he puts away the things, eats himself, cleans up his mouth, folds the towel and be active in every class activities … To be active, I am grateful to the teachers and their educational environment very much. I see my son happy and so does my family.

One evening, when I was struggling with the whole family’s clothes, preparing for cleaning them up every night, the son came…gathered all of his clothes and sat down to learn… guided by me to fold the shirts, he was seemingly very happy.

Then, the father came, but did not fully understand why his son had rushed: “let me do it for you”…

He screamed, shook his head, and used his arm to cover up a file of clothes like he did not want to be taken and continuously said: Let B00 fold … it’s B00 …

B00’s father still deliberately intervened in the clothes that con had folded, so I get spoiled of my son … apologize for my confusion…

How children of this age, the sensitive period of the order, safe feeling and children focus on habit formation. That act is proof that children can do by themselves, so we should let children do by themselves.

I often call my small room as a “nest” because it is small and pretty but everything is full … enough for mother and son to freely do what they like. From another angle, there is a homemade bookshelf and a soft sitting pillow, enough to give a mother and children a quiet space to read books. Next to it, a table for children to enjoy water activities, lego and play with the teacher. I also prepared a shelf, put on some creative toys, some activities were changed regularly, a basket of green plants for daily care, a set of shovel brushes, a carpet, and a set of towels to wipe separately … everything is arranged neatly, tidy and orderly, aesthetically … I also have a regulation for separate space for children and every day, we will take care of that room together. My son, when he saw I wipe the shelf, quickly took a towel, cleaned his own small place, put toys back in its place, he and his grandfather took care of the plants, watered and fed the birds each day … everything is very natural!

There is a saying “Land is the source of the root. Children need to learn to live in harmony with Mother Earth.”… I give my son the opportunity to help me to do everything himself, to cultivate love with nature and to live in harmony with them. My child is happy with what he does…

I found myself lucky and fortunate to work in Montessori education environment and early access to Montessori before giving birth has made me have better preparation for psychology and parenting knowledge. From understanding the concepts of osmotic wisdom, the sensitive period, the prepared environment … I noticed everything around me can help me grow, my child will be extremely excited to do it, I just give my child the opportunity to practice. I came to Montessori as fate and a choice of an educational school that attached to destiny. I feel like this is what have been looking for, still sticking up until now…

Trang – Boo’s mother in Trang An Campus

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